The Good Life
The holidays can be particularly stressful for families that have been through divorce. But they don’t have to be. Carolyn Ellis, founder of Thrive after Divorce , says the key is to plan ahead and be very clear about who will be celebrating with whom, especially where the children will be for each part of the festivities.
“We have to think flexibly when our family structure changes like that – so maybe you don’t celebrate the holiday on that day that the Hallmark system says you’re supposed to. Opportunities to have the blended family come together – maybe there’s a handover that doesn’t mean kids are just met at the doorstep but that maybe Dad comes in and has an Egg Nog with the family, and then the kids go off to their next event. I think the greatest gift that parents can give their kids at the holiday time is to be able to be free to love both parents as they see fit, and not have to choose sides – and that can really come up a lot in the holiday season.”