If you’re like many Zoomers, you’ve just shipped a child off to university for a first foray into life away from home. Here are some tips on how to survive your kid’s freshmen year without all the handholding.
If your kid adopts a strict diet of pizza and beer, don’t demand a calorie-by-calorie report of what they ate for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Do stealthily eye them when they return home for Thanksgiving to check out whether they’re starting to bulge out of their sweater or pick at their food. Watch for significant weight changes. Anything else falls into the category of nagging.
If your kid blows all his spending money in a month, don’t panic and set up a joint bank account so you can monitor how often he drops $40 for a two-four of beer or $300 on an iPhone. Do let him blow the budget — once.
Florida-based university transition expert Barbara Rhode says if students overspend the first time, help them out of the jam, but be clear they’re on their own after that. Even if you want to help them again , understand that doesn’t always mean saying yes. It’s giving the problem back to them to deal with like adults.